Let's Close the Door...Please? #RebelliousWriting

     I'm doing it, I'm finally sitting down to write this post! This month has been busy, especially this week, and next week promises to be even more busy. *collapses* I would take a nap or at least try, but right now the house is filled with the sounds of kids screaming and the awful sound of pool noodles hitting bare skin, which always makes me flinch. In other words, my little brother's friend is hanging out here today, and my room has nerf bullets all over the floor because I guess they came in here earlier to play, that or the baby has been leaving me them as presents... *sighs*
      I might not even blog next week, so if I disappear, sorry! I'll try...but...

       Oh, and this one is about as Blimey Cow calls it "the do" in YA, so if that's a subject you'd rather not get into, I would recommend checking out a guest post I did over at Mary Kate's about Self-publishing, instead. It was a lot of fun. And if you plan on reading on I'd still encourage you to check it out afterwards!

       But anyway, here it is, the long awaited post about my opinion on the showing or telling of the birds and the bees in YA.

    I don't like it. Not. One. Little. Bit. There are some things I need to know, and others I don't need or even want to know.
       And I get it, sex happens, that's pretty apparent.

       But please, spare us the details. I should not turn the page in a book and suddenly be reading a full-blown sex scene. This is after all a novel not a gross lemon written by a fangirl...

       What ever happened to hinting? I read old books and when the characters have sex (I've read like only two older books where anything is actually hinted at all), it shows and tells nothing, it just hints. And I think books that do this come off as way classier than the books that are just straight out vulgar and trashy.

       I watched Wonder Woman last Friday, and my siblings won't be watching it anytime soon because it hinted at a lot, but I liked it. Diana and Steve do have sex, but it doesn't show anything, it just hints. They kiss inside Diana's hotel bedroom and then it cuts to the next scene which is the next day and the subject is not brought up again (probably just because they didn't want an R rating, but still). Why can't all books and movies do that?! It's way classier and actually kind of sweet sometimes, even though I don't agree with sex outside of marriage.

       Think of it this way, you have two friends. Friend one is very vulgar and gross, she/he is always telling you all of the  disgusting details that you don't want to know.
        Friend two is the opposite, he/she is respectful of your ears and doesn't want to cause you any discomfort.

        Which friend would you choose to hang out with more?

         Books are like those two friends. Some are very vulgar and profane and others aren't and they are quite lovely.

          Please think of that when you write your book. It's okay to close the door, in fact, please do. As my friend Catherine so wisely made into a meme:

            Also, don't be a stupid person, or as I call them, a fruitcake.

        Get it? Because very few people like fruitcakes and very few people enjoy the company of complete dimwits... perfect metaphor. Trust me, most people DON'T want to read your garbage pornographic sex scenes!!! *gasps from the audience* That's right. And those who do, let's just say they aren't the best group to attract. I actually feel sort of bad for some of those writers, if someone googles their name all sorts of weird disgusting stuff is probably going to pop up, it must be hard to get a job...

      So don't be stupid. Don't be a fruitcake. And if you must make your characters have relations that are beyond friendship or first base, please close the door.